My Bio Says ‘No Drama,’ My Communication Style Says ‘Escape Room With Vibes’

Emma’s Hinge bio is clear: “No drama, just good energy.” Her texting history, however, tells a different story — one that involves four cryptic messages, a passive-aggressive playlist, and an unexpected period of complete silence labeled “me time.”

“She told me she doesn’t like games,” said Tyler, 31. “Then she said ‘I just think it’s interesting…’ and refused to elaborate. For three days.”

Dating coaches say this isn’t unusual. In fact, “No drama” bios are now a red flag in disguise — often signaling someone with deeply curated chaos who believes self-awareness is the same thing as resolution.

“She’s not being manipulative — she’s just broadcasting on a frequency only she can hear,” said Dr. Naomi Liston, a relationship therapist who specializes in what she calls emotional obfuscation. “These women aren’t lying when they say they don’t want drama. They’re just unaware that they are the drama. Subtly. Elegantly. Like a hurricane wearing perfume.”

According to app data analyzed by Tinder’s behavioral UX team, profiles that include “no drama,” “good vibes only,” or “I don’t do toxicity” are 44% more likely to result in mismatched expectations or early-stage ghosting.
“These bios function like warning signs in Comic Sans,” said Jules Cringeley. “It’s giving ‘I’m emotionally self-regulated’ on the surface, but the first time you text back too quickly, she sends a meme about abandonment wounds.”

Emma, when reached for comment, texted: “idk. weird energy today. not you. just…in general.” She then liked Tyler’s Instagram story but didn’t reply to his question about Saturday plans.

Critics argue that men do the same — pretending to be emotionally available until asked to describe a feeling longer than one word. But in HERSAY terms, the focus is clear: emotional riddles dressed up as boundaries, with a hint of sunlit delusion.

“She doesn’t want drama,” said Jules, “but she wants to be understood — without explaining herself. It’s the ultimate vibe trap. If you guess right, you win affection. If you guess wrong, you triggered something.”

Tyler, for his part, has decided to move on. “I just want clarity,” he said. “Like, at least let me fail in plain language.”

Emma posted a story 12 minutes later: a quote that read, “If he wanted to, he would.”
No one knows what she meant.